After Pfefferman, played by Emmy-winner Jeffrey Tambor, meets Vickie (Angelica Huston), a breast cancer survivor, at a women’s music festival, the two quickly strike up a romance.
I didn’t want to be someone’s teacher: ‘This is what’s right, this is what’s wrong, you shouldn’t say this.’“Now he’s become part of the community.A lesbian who is a woman who loves other women, and there being a long tradition within lesbian community of exclusion of trans women…to have women who love women pursue me, it just means that much more.”Devon Shanley, New York, N. Public school teacher, 34Trans man, he/him On dating for the first time after he moved to New York:“Because I felt so isolated, I found myself feeling more vulnerable and a little bit scared. It led to a situation where we were literally making out in the rain and coming to my apartment, and I had to do that last-minute disclosure thing.He was a gold star gay boy and got nervous and ran away.“The people who I became interested in afterward, I didn’t really expect to be treated fairly.I didn’t know any trans women who were in long-term relationships. I knew the moment I told him I was trans, that bubble was going to burst. After we started emailing one day, he looked up my email address and found links to me.
There was always a chance that they would say, ‘Oh, that’s great,’ but incredibly unlikely. He emailed me an hour before our date and said, ‘I just found out what you are. Goodbye.’”What it’s like to date women as a transgender woman:“Women haven’t had an issue.But so far in my experience, they’ve all been unfazed.“The first time that a clearly lesbian-identified woman pursued me, it meant the world to me. I had some really good friends I went to college with who were New Yorkers, so I had a really strong support group. I went almost entirely on a three-year span of not dating.