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She describes herself as ordinary, but her marriage is anything but.
And we equally had a fear of meeting the other person's play partner.
So I proposed we have a "get out of jail free" card: for a whole year, we would do what we want, when we wanted, and then reevaluate how it made us feel at the end of the year.
Nicholas and I were both so excited to start exploring sexual experiences outside our marriage, yet neither of us was sure how to go about it.
I wasn’t confident that I could handle knowing things—like what he was doing, and with whom, when he left our home. We were also unsure whether we wanted to “play,” or engage in sexual experiences with other people, together or as separate individuals.
We’re also more open to having spontaneous experiences with other couples.
He was a divorced dad of two in his 30s, and I was in my 20s, so I kind of wrote him off. Suddenly I found myself incredibly drawn to him, and our friendship quickly escalated to romance. RELATED: The Better Sex Workout Before I met Nicholas, I’d been in several monogamous relationships but had never been able to remain faithful in any of them.
But everything changed the night when I saw him pick up a guitar. With him, it was easy—not just because I was so sexually attracted to him, but because I loved him so much.
Going into our second year in what I like to call a “flexible marriage,” we sat down and created a document together that lists the rules we abide by, which we each keep on our desktop computers.
Rule number one is "our marriage comes first." Other rules include one that states we can only “play with people who get tested for STDs,” mandatory condom use, and that we won’t get pulled into anyone else’s personal drama.It ended up creating a lot more hurt feelings and drama than the positive experience we were seeking for our marriage.