Often our perception of someone’s persona is based on what they want us to see, and we build unrealistic expectations.Social media can create a pretend world of whom we would like to be rather than who we really are.Limitless options in cyberspace aren’t necessarily helpful, and the freedom of choice, is at times paralysing.The desire to find a Zac Effron lookalike with the heart of Pope Francis has pushed us to either become so specific we lose sight of great people, or give up on commitment entirely, instead searching for the greater upgrade, disregarding the fact we are dealing with people—not a Mercedes-Benz.Sexual promiscuity is rampant, even among Christian teens, and many young people receive little or no moral guidance from their parents.Binge drinking, date violence, and even date rape are far too common.Even if we do spot a dashing Christian, the person may or may not have been honest on his or her social media profile.A few years ago, an atheist friend of mine pointed at me with victorious venom when a documentary on Channel 4 indicated statistics that Christians lied than Atheists on dating websites.
The modern era gave us hook-up apps, One Direction, and new hurdles in social trends.And whether or not a relationship occurs from meeting – exit well with communication, honesty and a pinch of diplomacy.Don’t allow much time between initial conversation and meeting face-to-face.Some of the traditional methods have proven to be more connecting than today. Interaction with anyone of the opposite sex can spark fun and intrigue, but delve deeper into conversation before racing ahead with relationship status.
All good things come to those who space their pace. I often find men are far more amiable to have friendship with after the first date if they’ve got a team of people from which they are seeking guidance. Anyone who doesn’t invite that kind of authority into his or her life is questionable to me.There is a difference between finding a boyfriend and finding a spouse. Despite the plethora of choice in cyberspace, use your relationship with God to confer and think carefully as to whom you want to place time and conversation, one person at a time. Dating is merely about building trust, so start as you mean to go on with faithfulness that doesn’t seek to gain over giving. We have complicated dating as much as we have complicated the Gospel with our own fear, past experience or hopelessness.