I can't count the number of times I heard "You're wasting your time" or "You'll never meet anyone else." But buoyed by the confidence and happiness that comes from a healthy relationship, I was more able to recognize and accept the right guy when he came along.And my experiences on the periphery of non-monogamy taught me a lot about relationships, lessons I'm applying in my new, monogamous relationship. You will be attracted to people outside your relationship Having an open relationship has never been my goal, but I'm not going to bury my head in romantic sand.As a result, I'm much more at ease with other women than I was before, which is a good thing for every aspect of my life, not just my current relationship. Expectations are everything When I first got involved with Charles, he outlined the small print. With my expectations managed, I didn't run into brick walls trying to make the relationship something it wasn't. Friendship, support, great sex, an emotional connection, but not "love." In my new relationship, the scope of my expectations is wider and deeper, but one thing I know will never happen is living in the same place.
Daily life in long-term relationships can make it hard to feel that excitement, let alone communicate it.
Every time someone chooses you, it affirms your relationship – even more so if they have a choice to be with someone else.
If your partner is flirting with someone else but comes home with you, they do so in freedom.
No more jealousy or competitiveness, no hiding my feelings about issues in case my boyfriend just agrees with me and ends it.
I'm not going to allow complacency and dependency to creep in.But Charles and I haven't had any breakup drama to go through – merely an adjustment.