I truly wanted to do what I felt was God’s will, but I also really didn’t want to give up the relationship.It wasn’t until I was fully ready to obey God’s leading, that the answer came.His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me.For someone whose “love language” is spending quality time together, that was a major issue.And as I look back on past relationships, I can see why Matt and I are the best match compared to others we each dated.
For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy.Once I took my fingers out of my ears and agreed to truly hear what God had to say, His answer was quite clear. It’s not easy to break up with someone that you have grown close to.“No, this is not the one for you.” After that I made the difficult decision to break up with the guy. But I’m convinced it is much less hurtful than spending your life being miserable in a marriage.In some relationships, I found myself compromising some of my values to be more in line with that guy’s.
In other relationships, I began to think that some of the things I had wanted in a husband were perhaps more wishful thinking than things that could actually be.When friends began to point out other red flags about our relationship, I took some time to seriously seek God’s will on the matter.